![Swing Rocking Chair Courtyard Balcony Outdoor Double Hammock Aluminum Alloy Chair Indoor Bed Sandalwood Swing Rocking Chair [with Cushion And Pillow]](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0582/5157/5492/products/10031690145731_7.jpg?v=1630323708 "Swing Rocking Chair Courtyard Balcony Outdoor Double Hammock Aluminum Alloy Chair Indoor Bed Sandalwood Swing Rocking Chair [with Cushion And Pillow]")
![Hall Hanging Chair Balcony Basket Rattan Chair Indoor Room Dormitory Swing Rocking Chair Outdoor Double Lazy Hammock Rocking European Bird's Nest Drop Single Coffee Color Luxury Version [armrest + Large]](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0582/5157/5492/products/10032946349536_3_aa048309-80c5-424c-9bcd-283db509fe8a.jpg?v=1630324862 "Hall Hanging Chair Balcony Basket Rattan Chair Indoor Room Dormitory Swing Rocking Chair Outdoor Double Lazy Hammock Rocking European Bird's Nest Drop Single Coffee Color Luxury Version [armrest + Large]")
★★★★★ 5
Life changing advice that is simple to apply
When discussing building relationship skills with a therapist several years ago (and it is a skill, make no mistake), she recommended this book as providing a useful framework for thinking about loving relationships of all kinds — romantic, familial, even friends. Several years later, I can honestly say it has permanently changed the way I think about these relationships.
The premise, as you probably know, is that people have one of five native love languages — words, gifts, touch, acts of service, or quality time. It's a remarkably robust idea. It's so simple and clear that I instantly recognized the love languages in my current relationships, and even achieved a much greater understanding of some past conflicts by thinking of them in this new context.
For example, I realized while reading that my mother is 100% on the "acts of service" side. While she almost never gets sentimental, she shows love by doing all she can to help people out in any way possible — even ways that seem completely trivial. And I realized how much more hurtful it can be if I take these acts for granted, since these are her little expressions of love. It explained a lot.
I also realized that my partner uses "words of affirmation," which had been a source of minor conflict for us, as that's probably my least used love language. It turns out that he was a little hurt whenever I'd hang up the phone without saying "I love you." I've now taught myself to say it every time, and he's noticeably happier about it — or as Chapman would say, his tank is fuller.
After I read this book and held onto it for a while, I gave it to my sister. She read it, and we had a great discussion about the relationships in our lives. Chapman has really hit on something perfect with this little book — a simple theory that's easy to remember, remarkably accurate, and most importantly, instantly practical.
WAS THIS REVIEW HELPFUL?YesReportShare
Reviewed in the United States on October 12, 2015
